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July 5, 2005
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Shift within a Shift
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Empathic International
Losing Illusions |
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Indeed, it is not intellect, but intuition which advances
humanity. Intuition tells a man his purpose in life. One
never goes wrong following his feelings. I don’t mean
emotions, I mean feelings, for feelings and intuition are
one.
~ Albert Einstein
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feminine perception while alerting most men to the same;
as both genders merge passions of life, their complementary
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cognition, will from their bond reflect to us any imaginable
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I understand and freely talk about feelings, because I found
out over 20 years ago that I had them - somewhere. It was
excruciating to move through forgotten pain that covered
up most other feelings. Once the pain had been felt, it
was no longer avoided, and other feelings were uncovered
then relished. I felt as if I had walked into a cafeteria
where the feeling choices were there to be tasted and celebrated.
I felt alive! Otto
Scharmer, MIT professor and organizational consultant, qualified
the people in peril of falling short in evolving global
business communities as those who trained and function intensely
in matters of money and finance. David's
opinion :: Sharmer's theory might help verify predictions
of our scrambled global banking systems, which are shakily
held together by maelstroms of debtor schemes.
Be
mindful of how you approach time. Watching the clock is
not the same as watching the sun rise.
~ Sophia Bedford-Pierce
Remain
open. There is something bigger than you know going on here.
~ Iyanla VanZant
What
is the biggest challenge facing human beings? To reinvent
ourselves at the species level; (reinvent) educational and
civilizations' activities to mutually enhance relationships
with all other species on Earth. Presently, human interactions
degrade everything.
~ a close paraphrase from recorded interview with
Brian Swimme, Mathematical Cosmologist
The
illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot
read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and
relearn.
~ Alvin Toffler
The
struggle of the mind to keep itself free from every sort
of bondage - to remain curious, open, unsatiated in all
its relations with nature - is tenfold more difficult than
the cultivation of a stable, satisfying point of view, but
a thousandfold more precious.
~ Gardner Murphy
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Greetings Everyone,
Here, right up at the top of this newsletter, I’m putting
the most important ideas. Here’s to being grateful for our
bodies!
Have you remembered lately that you are actually breathing? I
bet you have now, eh? I just finished the usual 8-minute physical
routine I do almost hourly, and, as I jumped up and down on the
rebounder that’s a few feet from this computer, I thought,
‘I’m breathing!’
Yes, that’s right. I am staying awake to my breathing,
today. These are terribly exciting times in which to live, and
what knows better than anything else the stress you are holding?
Your body does.
Consider these exercises.
- Deeply inhale and exhale voluntarily seven times, feeling
the air as it passes in and out of your chest. Do you cause
your chest to rise and fall as you do this exercise? At other
times, can you push out your stomach as you inhale, and relax
it as you exhale?
- Deeply inhale and exhale voluntarily seven times, feeling
the air as it expands your back. Are you able to keep your back
straight for 15 minutes?
- Deeply inhale and exhale voluntarily as you putter around
the house.
One of my favorite exercise and nutrition gurus, Covert Bailey,
said to his PBS viewing audience that it simply didn’t matter
which exercise you choose as long as you do it. I pass that reminder
to you.
Now, to the news…
After the last Staying Awake ezine, a long-time friend
mentioned she wanted to hear more about what prompted the empathy.
My insides grumbled. Was I willing to reveal even more about my
experience of the meeting? Was I actually willing to tell the
truth in an ezine?
What the heck. These are extraordinary times, and after all Staying
Awake is about “Surprise!” moments I’ve
been talking about all along. If you wish, you may review my encounter
in the Shift within a Shift, Part 1, here.
So, I divided my “Surprise!” moment into a trilogy
of after thoughts. What follows is the second of three installments
relating a fascinating physical experience to the feeling of compassion
for men who, in general, fear being vulnerable, and fear being
discovered they might be wrong about something. The shift was
not an experience I could have imagined happening, ever!
Gratefully, I am reading a book titled I Don’t Want
to Talk About It authored by a male psychotherapist, Terrence
Real, who exposes how some successful men don’t want to
talk about experiences that secretly provoked repeated anger and
disappointment, both of which are associated with and can result
in deep depression.
It is not at all unrealistic to say many (American) men hardly
know the words that reveal a range of their vulnerabilities, those
simplest of feelings felt below the neckline. Instead of feeling
and expressing one’s love and empathy, many males unwittingly
substitute outstanding job performance, as well as artificial
performances as a husband and father. Out of oppression, substitutions
have gone on for thousands of years; today, too many times we
mistakenly call those burdened, masculine performances ‘a
good image.’ Until they are not. (*)
Females who immolate masculine performance unknowingly do so
at enormous cost to their femininity; and are usually striving
to please or appease the major masculine influence in their lives.
They could be using their own full power instead of that allotted
them by the guys 'in charge.'
Here comes the heart of the shift... The empathy I felt appeared
during a luncheon meeting while a male coach told his story of
confronting a primary male leader in a well known international
company. The leader reportedly castrated his audience to the level
of their feeling the humiliating scorch and burn theory of management.
Later, after a series of coaching sessions, the corporate leader
made amends. When a male corporate coach has the leverage and
savvy communication skills to confront an organization’s
leader, many of whom possess a fortified ego that must appear
in tact, then I regard the coach as a role model for making a
difference in a realm of importance – the repressively masculine,
profit by any means, competitive corporate arena.
I was stunned in the moment of hearing the coach’s story,
so deeply stunned by relating it to recent discoveries about male
depression, I would not have been surprised had I levitated out
of my chair. Yes, the simultaneous emotional and physical shift
was a healing moment: a lightness was felt inside. See Shift
within a Shift, Part 1, here.
Now, I am practicing remembering the shifts that deepened my
awareness to empathy; reminding myself of other males who were
suppressed, who then repressed themselves and other males.
Postscripts. So,
are depressed coaches coaching depressed clients? That is likely
so, but who’s to say “Surprise!” empathic moments
cannot occur within them? Not me! I’m guessing, though, until
clearly defined feeling experiences can be distinguished and held
onto by already burdened, self absorbed females and males, then
extant webs of unspoken, psychological discomforts will continue,
globally. Ad nauseam.
Honestly, I hope the heart of the coaching industry, still evolving
through its infancy, will prove with flying colors its impact
within multinational corporations.
Until I began writing the last couple of ezines, I hadn’t
realized how much thoughtful energy I’ve spent lately on
group coaching. The heart and language of coaching groups will
always be close to me, because group environments can experience
magical moments called ‘ah-Ha’! You know, that instant
when the light bulb flicks on, and inspires everyone there in
the moment.
Some females and males consult and coach inside small businesses
and corporations; others do the same for groups of individuals
on the outside looking for positions within. Coaches are in prime
roles for intentionally swimming tides of corporate change, and
for applying candid communication skills that induce empathic
moments that can lead to everyone’s well being.
I enjoy imagining corporate coached groups of females and males
eventually making grand scale opportunities for investing empathy.
In the long range and in myriad ways created by forthcoming technologies,
wireless exchanges of global goodwill, inclusivity, money and
property, as well as information will possibly catapult us and
our global sisters and brothers into yet knowable, ethical, and
empathic environments.
The more secrets we hear about the history of business with its
political undertow and abuse of female and male capital, the more
respect due those of you who work invisibly as group, corporate,
and executive coaches.
‘Nothing is impossible’ has been a deeply silent
mantra since acknowledging it, those exact words, when I was a
junior in high school. In these days of shocking revelations in
international banking, sex trafficking, politics, religion, science,
philosophy, I chose to change the mantra to ‘Everything
is possible.’ That premise spotlights focused inquiry on
anything that comes my way. Out of all changes happening now,
there are layers of gains to rejoice over, and layers of losses
to grieve, too.
Collective losses of illusions can cause misery for some, and
rejoicing for others. One day, we might look back to today’s
raucous, stacked up, flaming illusions of commercialism to say
we had been right on schedule, all along, with our universe’s
manifestations.
A common presumption among some female and male physicists, anthropologists,
philosophers, parapsychologists, and visionaries is humans can
strategically plan a collective future, however illusory, as Planet
Earth feels phase changes within the solar system.
For fun, I just made up four possibilities we might think in
the future when recalling what had occurred in our past…
- Our masculine-baffooned language and egos, and our illusory
comfort zones held onto with white knuckles, had been part of
an elegant path into new generations of human interactions we
could hardly have described at the time
- We had begun remembering humans were the brain’s eye
for consciously viewing the scope of cosmic changes
- We had embraced changes as humans being only one part of nature
and its cosmos
- We were supposed to lose ourselves in commercial overload and
in deliberately exacerbated illusions without losing our natural
autonomy
Absorbed in blazes
of commerce,
Awakened by instants of truth
Descending surely and loudly upon us
As whispers in falling snowflakes. |
